Author Topic: Sad news. (Read 9459 times)

ChfBrianB · « **on:** December 18, 2011, 10:32:34 PM »

It's very hard to say this, but I consider you all family, so here goes...

Today after 2 months of having our daughter in our home, she was taken from us by her birth mother. We were informed that she has chosen to parent, and that we have no ability to contest the decision. We were called with the news by our lawyer at 11:45am and the was taken from our home at 2:30pm. We didn't even know it was coming.

So, lisa and I are greiving the loss of our 6th child. We are $16,000 in the hole over this adoption with no possible refunds, and we are trying to come to grips with the reality that this was our last chance.

I'm not sure what to say other than we thank you for any thoughts and prayers that you have to offer both for us and for our former child.

I'll check in now and then, but Lisa and I will be trying to deal with this loss together for a while.

Brian

dorelse · « **Reply #1 on:** December 18, 2011, 10:39:42 PM »

As I posted on Facebook.

We're sorry for this sad turn of events. You, Lisa and Migizi are in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless you both.

OleRed · « **Reply #2 on:** December 18, 2011, 10:40:44 PM »

Oh Brian .. so sorry, you and Lisa just got on top of Georgia's prayer list, we love you guy's, so sorry, we're here , ok ?

Glastron_GT160 · « **Reply #3 on:** December 18, 2011, 11:18:32 PM »

So sad. I can't imagine how you & Lisa must feel. Heartbreaking.

MarkS · « **Reply #4 on:** December 19, 2011, 08:47:48 AM »

I feel so very bad for you and Lisa, Brian, I'm at a loss for words. My jaw is on the floor, and my heart goes out to you guys. Please know that you'll be in our thoughts and prayers.

Jason · « **Reply #5 on:** December 19, 2011, 09:39:04 AM »

I also can not image how this must feel. I feel really bad for you guys. I pray that everything works out in the end. Wish there was someway I could help. Hang in there.

TV27 · « **Reply #6 on:** December 19, 2011, 10:36:32 AM »

Toni and I have you guys in our prayers, It is hard to imagine at this time but your faith will bring you through this. Twelve years ago the same thing happened to us, the birth mother waited 364 days and changed her mind, I hope that if we can do anything to ease the pain you will not hesitate to call on us.

ChfBrianB · « **Reply #7 on:** December 19, 2011, 11:28:11 AM »

Thank you all for your love and support.

Grinder · « **Reply #8 on:** December 19, 2011, 11:28:43 AM »

I am very sorry to hear that, you guys are in our thoughts and prayers.

Eric_Michael · « **Reply #9 on:** December 19, 2011, 02:21:48 PM »

I have no idea your situation or if this will even apply to you. Nor do I want to present you with any false hopes. That said...

My sister went through a similar situation when adopting her oldest. The birth mom was on the edge whether she could handle the child or not. She went through all sorts of training on parenting and was given a shot at it. It didn't work out, but it took several months for her to learn that. In a bit of a compromise, the BM was written in as "Aunt Tracy" so she could make an appearance at birthday's, etc. She lives in the same community so this all worked out.

My point... Don't hold on to false hope, but leave the door open. You never know what may happen.

Hyperacme · « **Reply #10 on:** December 19, 2011, 03:37:44 PM »

Hopefully as Eric said things will work out in the end ...
Talk about getting "Blind sided" !

V153 · « **Reply #11 on:** December 19, 2011, 04:48:10 PM »

What! Where did the 16k go? Oh that's downright dirty pool. Please forgive me but it sounds an awful lot like a scam?

Really blows regardless. Hang in there Bergstroms.

Doug

Rich_V174SS · « **Reply #12 on:** December 19, 2011, 06:21:13 PM »

Very sorry to hear Brian. Same thing happened to the drummer in my band some years ago when he and his wife were adopting, there was last minute change of heart from the biological mother. He was out around the same amount of money too, payment for agency and support bills, etc. There should be some sort of insurance protection against that kind of loss but sadly I don't think there is. Hang in there buddy!

V153 · « **Reply #13 on:** December 19, 2011, 07:30:23 PM »

Well. Reckon it could be worse. Couple next door had been trying to concieve for awhile & finally decided to adopt. No sooner had they shelled out a ton of money & completed their adoption 'courses' when all of a sudden she got pregnant.

In a case of extremely cruel irony the kid was born with severe Downs Syndrome. Life ain't always fair is it?

TomLund · « **Reply #14 on:** December 19, 2011, 08:08:10 PM »

Linda and I have you both in our thoughts and prayers

Tom and Linda

David CVX-16 · « **Reply #15 on:** December 19, 2011, 08:36:48 PM »

My heart goes out to you Brian and Lisa.

David

Rosscoe · « **Reply #16 on:** December 19, 2011, 08:48:58 PM »

I am so sorry to hear about this. After all you've been through!
Unbelievable!
I thought that at some point there was a "point of no return" for the birth mother and I certainly thought you guys were past that. How can they leave that window open indefinately? How cruel! I do not know how people can go through this. Very difficult. There is something wrong with the process. But thats besides the point.
Again, I feel really bad for you guys and I'll be thinking about you.

Hotwired · « **Reply #17 on:** December 19, 2011, 09:35:21 PM »

OMG .. that is just WRONG! Very sorry for your pain Brian and Lisa. Keep the faith though. There is a little one out there for you two who is truly meant for you and you will find him/her eventually.

74 Carlson the II · « **Reply #18 on:** December 20, 2011, 08:15:30 PM »

So sorry to hear of this news. My thoughts and prayers go out to the both of you.

Bayflite73 · « **Reply #19 on:** December 21, 2011, 01:30:36 PM »

I'm so very sorry to hear about this horrible situation. Brian and Lisa I know we've only met recently, but Sarah and I will keep you both in our thoughts and prayers.

You guys are too good for this sort of thing to happen.

~Josh