After being away from the computer this weekend (enjoying my Glastron on the river!!) I just read threw all of these posts. I also read the email exchanges, that have been referenced. I supported the decision made. I don't know said person that well and have only spoken to him a few times. But I have read many of the posts that have been discussed and simple thought what the hell, why would someone say that to another "friend". I have no hatred against anyone (ok no one on here anyway).
Some the emails were far from polite and simply, blamed, accused, demanded , as well as being disrespectful. We are all here to support each other and have a good time. When you are doing a project and are told you are doing it wrong, when wrong is simply one persons opinion. I don't agree with this. If you are a random person that comes across this site and read posts like that it would definitely turn me off and I would not want to join a group of individuals that talked to people that way. Everyone has an opinion and a way of doing things. Just because it is your way does not mean everyone has to do something that way. I have had the company I worked for called out see this thread
http://forum.cgoamn.com/index.php?topic=3926.msg47073#msg47073 As I said in that post it's disrespectful and completely un-called for. I received more that one email, pm, and a couple calls about that post. It was people apologizing to me for someone else's actions. Was I personally offended NO, am I easily offended NO, but again common respect for your fellow man/ woman goes a long way.
There is more than once I have typed a post and then reread my post before submitting it. I then changed it or deleted it all together. It is like text messages now days there is no expressed emotion. How do you know when someone is joking, mad, kidding, with the written word. Unless you are using the emoji's (i really dont like them). It is hard to express feeling with written word. I have sent text messages to people before joking around and then reread my message only to think o know what if they take that the wrong way. Completely meant it as a joke but with out a facial expression how will someone else take it.
I think (my opinion) the biggest thing we all need to take away from this is that we need to re read our posts before we submit. How is the other person going to take it when they dont see the post for a day and forget any implied emotion. Instead of YOUR DOING IT WRONG! Maybe I have done it this way and it worked well. Will people get offended some times yes. Can anyone prevent it all NO, but can it be made better yes. It's a pretty simple concept just don't say offensive things to people, and if you really say those things say it to them and not post it for everyone else to read!
Like i said earlier think of the random people we meet while out boating and tell them about this great site we have and how we are all hear to help. We tell them we support each other, we'll try to help solve problems or questions, and how its a great group of people. So they go home that night get on the site and see some one calling someone out, telling them there are wasting money doing it that way, bad mouthing there political views, demanding that there way it the best, etc. They are not coming back and they sure are not going to want to meet up with a group like that.
Some times you have to suck up your pride and simply say, Hay I was wrong my bad. Simple as that. My way or the highway is not the correct mindset and if you choose that path then it will be a lonely highway.
Lets all get a long show each other some mutual respect!! Reread a post before you submit it and think to yourself how will someone outside looking in view this. After all this is a public forum correct?
