I'm not an outdrive expert, but I work with one.
My Story:
1984 Searay Sundancer 26 ft., 260hp Mercruiser 350, Alpha drive.
I swapped out the engine 3 years ago for a mildly built 383 stroker, est. 405 hp, torque unknown, top speed: 41 mph @ 4500 rpm. Tom at Miss Croix has been working on outdrives for 40 years. He says that it is not the HP, but the torque that kills the drives.
My boat is 5,000+ lbs. I never 'holeshot' or 'jack-rabbit' start. A month ago, I replaced the engine with a brand new Mercruiser 350 MPI Alpha crate engine, 325 hp. Mercruiser designed and built this engine and certified it's use with an alpha. Tom went through my lower unit, per the 3 year extended warranty, and said it is still within specs internally and nothing is worn. This is the original 34 year old alpha.
I am certainly not criticizing or judging the way people use their equipment, because I love the rush of power and speed, too. But, if you treat your boat like it is at the quarter-mile track every time you take off, why would you not expect it to wear out or break? I believe that you can get many trouble free years of use out of an alpha if you ease up on plane. Once there try to break the top speed record
IMO
Allan